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His Only Wife

His Only Wife by Peace Adzo Medie

I just finished reading ‘His Only Wife’, the debut novel by Peace Adzo Medie. I enjoyed it and I think you will too. It was a New York Times Notable Book of the Year in 2020 and highly recommended by Buzzfeed, Christian Science Monitor and many others.

The novel is sort of a fairy tale story turned upside down. It starts simply enough, a sweet and beautiful young woman marries a prince…in this case a wealthy, handsome businessman. Afi Tekple is a young seamstress in Ghana. She is smart; she is pretty; and she has been convinced by her mother to marry a man she does not know. Afi knows who he is, of course—Elikem is a wealthy businessman whose mother has chosen Afi in the hopes that she will distract him from his relationship with a woman his family claims is inappropriate. But Afi is not prepared for the shift her life takes when she is moved from her small hometown of Ho to live in Accra, Ghana’s gleaming capital, a place of wealth and sophistication where she has days of nothing to do but cook meals for a man who may or may not show up to eat them. She has agreed to this marriage in order to give her mother the financial security she desperately needs, and so she must see it through. Or maybe not?

He finally does appear and melts Afi’s heart. He is so much more than she imagines – and the young woman falls in love with her prince. Though their initial meeting goes well, Eli leaves again, giving no indication of when he might return. In the meantime, he suggests that Afi might want to enroll in school to help her fill her days. Learning of her skills as a seamstress and her interest in fashion, he sends his sister around to take Afi to the city’s design schools.

It is here that Medie’s story departs from the traditional fairytale. Afi avails herself of benefits Cinderella never received, opportunities like an education that helps her develop her talents and begin to make a name for herself in the fashion world. There are no wicked stepsisters in this story, either. With Eli away for weeks at a time, Afi develops friendships with other women, including his sister and his brother’s girlfriend. These friends open her eyes to possibilities that she never knew existed – let alone imagined – for herself.

Her women friends also give Afi a clearer picture of the Liberian woman, who, it turns out, is not at all how Eli’s mother had described her. She discovers this for herself when the two meet by accident and Afi realizes Eli never needed to be rescued. 

But neither does she. In this very contemporary story, Afi gets her fairytale ending, just not the one that generations of girls have been told to expect. Afi rescues herself and goes on to live her own, independent life.

It’s well-written and a fun, easy read. There’s lots of references to wonderful Ghanaian food and you can get a little bit of a feel for modern Ghanaian life. I always loved visiting Ghana and very much enjoyed the people. Give this book a try; I think you’ll enjoy it.

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Posted by Tom in Books, Literature

“It’s Friday” – NIST

Barry Blitt – New Yorker

Signssssss

A lot of birthdays today and one of them belongs to Johnny Cash – born in 1932. Here he is with his wife, June Carter Cash (one of the singing Carter Family). The music starts at around 0:58.

Posted by Tom in Humor, Music, sixties and seventies

‘Thursday’ – Shakespeare

Exposure Models

Today is the birthday of Don Randi (in 1937). He was a keyboardist, band leader, song writer and producer and has appeared on more than 300 hit records, including this gem from the 60s.

Posted by Tom in Humor, Music, sixties and seventies

Wednesday Day

two feet of snow!

and the birds…

Husband tweets…

Funny husband twitter, funny tweets by married men, spouses, relationship jokes, wife jokes, tweets by dads, funny jokes about marriage, married life
Funny husband twitter, funny tweets by married men, spouses, relationship jokes, wife jokes, tweets by dads, funny jokes about marriage, married life
Funny husband twitter, funny tweets by married men, spouses, relationship jokes, wife jokes, tweets by dads, funny jokes about marriage, married life
Funny husband twitter, funny tweets by married men, spouses, relationship jokes, wife jokes, tweets by dads, funny jokes about marriage, married life

Signs….

Today is the birthday (in 1947) of Lonnie Turner – bassist for the Steve Miller Band. You can hear him on this great song…

Posted by Tom in Humor, sixties and seventies

Tuesday today

feeling a little slow?

a little slow…

I used to work in technical support for a 24/7 call center.One day I got a call from an individual who askedwhat hours the call center was open.I told him, “The number you dialed is open24 hours a day, 7 days a week.”He responded, “Is that Eastern or Pacific time?”Wanting to end the call quickly, I said, “Uh, Pacific.”

My sister has a lifesaving tool in her cardesigned to cut through a seat belt if she gets trapped.She keeps it in the trunk.

I couldn’t find my luggage at the airport baggage area,so I went to the lost luggage office andtold the woman there that my bags never showed up.She smiled and told me not to worry becauseshe was a trained professional, and I was in good hands.”Now,” she asked me, “has your plane arrived yet?”So I replied, “No Ma’am, The Pilot told us we’re circling the airport, 3rd in line to land” …..

One day I was walking down the beach with some friends,when one of them shouted, “Look at that dead bird!”Someone looked up at the sky and asked, “Where?”

There were Vikings!

I know that a lot of you are into baking these days. If you have a few minutes, watch this guy and see how it’s done properly.

Today is the birthday of George Frideric Handel (in 1685). Here is one of his works that I like.

Posted by Tom in Humor, Music